Stop telling your kid they're smart. I know that sounds backwards. You're trying to build them up, right? But here's what actually happens: when you praise intelligence or talent, you accidentally teach them that their worth depends on being perfect. So when they hit something hard? They shut down. Because struggling means they're not smart anymore. That's why your bright kid won't raise their hand. Why your talented child avoids new things. Why one mistake triggers a meltdown. This video explai